Perspective on binkies

I exercise with women in my ward twice a week in the early hours before the kids wake up. This morning, I mentioned that I had thrown away the binkies and that Marie and Peter had a better night last night. One of the woman said that we really ought to learn about giving stuff up from our kids. We force them to give up their "bad habits." We ought to be more empathetic as they struggle instead of getting frustrated that they don't just accept it. I throw away the binkie and say, "Sorry! It's in the garbage." I tell them when they are supposed to be ready to give up their life long habit of using diapers. I tell them when they're ready for a bed instead of a crib.
What if someone took something dear to me away and said, "Sorry! It's in the garbage!" Would I just accept it and have a couple of bad nights? Or, would I get all uptight and angry because someone imposed something on me? Would I accept it if someone said, "I know you love to eat dessert foods, but now it's time for you to be done." For example, I would be REALLY grumpy if someone took my dessert allowance away. I would be REALLY grumpy if someone took my watch!
However, wouldn't it be nice if someone could in fact take our bad habits away and "put them in the garbage?" What if someone could take my insecurities and just throw them in the garbage? What if someone could take my tendency to get easily irritated and put it in the garbage?
Fortunately, no one can, because there would be no chance for growth. There would be no struggle to overcome our imperfections. We would lose our agency, which is one of the greatest gifts we've received. So, while I will do my best to empathize with my children when I impose growing up on them, I will also try to learn from them as they struggle. Perhaps it will help me in my growth.