The pros? I didn't have a child during college. Phew! I didn't have to work during college (yea for scholarships and help from Mom and Dad)! I had some time to be single and mature some before being "grown-up" and independent.
The cons? My sister just went on a month-long trip to Greece and Turkey. Could I do that? Not right now! I've got kids to take care of, a mortgage, and other financial responsibilities. She has just herself. Quite a few of my family members are going to South Carolina next week, including my three single sisters. Was I invited? Sure! Can I go? Not a chance! When we went to Disneyland on a family vacation, I was pregnant with Audrey. Did I get to enjoy the thrill of Space Mountain? Uh, no. If we are at a family gathering, I have to be responsible and leave to put my kids to bed. My mom and sisters are going to Parade of Homes tomorrow and Friday. However, I worry that will be too hard on my kids and so don't think I will be going.
However, I will speak for them (and if I'm wrong I apologize) in that all three of them want to be married and have children. They WANT what I have and that blessing has not come to them yet. So their cons? They don't have that "anchor" that keeps me from being able to do what they do. They don't have their desires fulfilled.
So, would I give up my husband and kids so I could take vacations where and when I want and when I want? Do I regret that I married "young" in the world's eyes and had children much ealier than the average adult? No way! I adore them! (I have certain issues with delaying certain things just for the convenience of playing, a career, etc. However, this is not the post for that.) So, I don't get to go on all the trips they do. I don't have the flexibility of schedules as they do. I don't get to spend my money like they do. I just have to focus on the blessings I do have.
5 comments:
Awesome post. And I totally agree with you!
Man can I relate.....yeah I got married at 19, so basically, I had no friends besides Ryan at first. It's like people think you have some plague or something and don't want to be with you anymore...grrr...frustrating, and hey if you need a babysitter, let me know!! You need to have time for yourself Lucille!
I think all of us moms have those times when we really wish we could just pick up and go on trips. Cory always says our time will come when we will travel the world so until then.......
I agree. You have a beautiful family to enjoy. There are many moments where I'd like to have more freedom but they are short lived by the laughter that fills my home and the endless supply of hugs and kisses. I have needed my boys more in the past year than ever and I don't know how I could have gotten through some of those times with out them.
I like your post....TOTALLY understand, and by the way, I LOVE the pink couch you're sitting on in the last picture! :-)
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